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REALITY Impossible to quantify, but interesting to contemplate. ______________________________________
What Can I Do For You?
This is the singular most important question anyone in a serious relationship should be constantly asking. It is the question that is the most productive, the most clarifying and the most real. Simply looking at it from a selfish point of view, it is the easiest road to peace. It is a question seldom asked, by most, because we mistakenly believe we are already either giving enough or giving everything we have. Neither is true. Most of us choose to spend our time trying to litigate and justify our position of rightness falsely believing we have public sentiment on our side and the other person is foolish not to adopt our wisdom. We are blind to the fact that this is the impossible task. It's the fool's gold. It's the ultra ego. It's the job that will never get done. The frustrating part for people attempting this is there is no judge. There is no ultimate authority, here on earth, who can render a verdict on our rightness, who can slap their stamp of right on our beliefs. We're just wasting our time, like petulant children, trying to prove the unproveable getting more and more frustrated and agitated as the exercise moves along. And, even if the divine power somehow rendered a verdict in our favor, that our genius had finally been acknowledged, all we would be doing is hurting the one we're supposed to love the most by shutting down their point of view. Instead, we have to focus on our partner's needs. It's the only logical way to proceed. Why waste time attempting the impossible? By arguing your right instead of trying to accommodate your partner you give yourself zero chance of success. If you knowingly give yourself no chance of success why bother entering into the relationship. If you're lucky, you find a partner who also understands this reality and finds value in reciprocation. Otherwise, you give and give until you're spent and you move on. Either way, you have no choice but to choose this path if you want any chance at peace and a successful relationship. It's maddening and brilliant, but how it is.
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